For Partners, Family & Friends
Can I bring my friend/family/partner to a meeting?
You certainly can, but please be aware that because we sometimes discuss sensitive and confidential topics, we prefer that main FTM London meetings remain an exclusively transmasculine space.
If your guests are not on that spectrum, they may be interested in joining FFTM instead.
FFTM - Family & Friends of Transmasculine People
FFTM is a group space where partners, family and friends of trans men and transmasculine people can talk to others in a similar situation, and have their questions answered. Whether it’s worrying about mental health or medical treatment, fears of abuse and bullying from others, reconciling the past and moving forwards, finding allies, or just having a chat about life – the FFTM group will give a valuable listening ear and provide a support space that is specifically focused on their needs.
The group is free to attend and open to anyone with a trans male/transmasculine partner, friend or family member of any age. Under-18 family and friends are welcome to attend but they must be accompanied by a responsible adult.
When do FFTM meetings happen?
Previously the group was held at the same time as physical FTM London meetings. However, due to the pandemic, currently meetings are happening online via Google Meet on the third Monday of the month, starting on 18th January at 7PM.
As this is a confidential space, meeting links are not made publicly available online and we ask that people register for the group. This page will be updated regularly with the date and sign up form for upcoming meetings, and you can find these below.
Once you sign up for a meeting, you'll get a confirmation email and then we'll also email you on the day of the meeting with the links/phone numbers you can use to join. We'll usually email you an hour before the meeting is due to start.
Before attending a meeting, please make sure you read the FFTM Code of Conduct and abide by the rules while at the meeting.
Who are Martha and Sue?
FFTM meeting facilitators Martha and Sue have been working together with FTM London for a number of years to provide help and support to the family and friends of our trans male/transmasculine members and attendees. Now we’re including partners, family and friends of anyone who identifies as a trans man or transmasculine, no matter their age or location – and they no longer need to be an FTM London member or attendee.
As a trans woman herself, counsellor and psychotherapist Martha brings ten years’ worth of experience in one-to-one work on gender, sexual health and wellbeing, relationships and cultural diversity areas. She has knowledge and expertise of helping people through running peer support and therapy groups both independently and as part of the care provided by cliniQ CIC.
Sue is the mum of a transgender son, so she can speak in detail and answer all sorts of questions about having a trans child, providing anecdotes of wisdom and comfort to those going through the same experiences and feelings.